Do you remember learning about the Golden Rule as a kid? “Treat others the way you want to be treated”. But, if this is really the most important rule in life, why don’t you treat yourself as well as you treat those around you?
Being overly critical of ourselves is something most of us can relate to. Maybe we are too hard on ourselves, beating ourselves up for small or simple mistakes. Maybe we didn’t follow the doctors’ advice and returned to work too soon… or maybe we overindulged on junk late at night.
why don’t you treat yourself as well as you treat those around you?
Whatever the pitfall might be, our usual reaction is to feel bad about ourselves and completely disregard any prior accomplishments. We become so self-critical that we forget that the desire to make our health a priority is an accomplishment in itself!
We all make mistakes from time to time, that’s why it’s called “human error”. We are all human and no one can be perfect, no matter how hard others try to appear to be.
Remember, Chin Up!
Nobody is perfect and you are doing the best you can. Appreciate yourself for putting in the work to maintain and improve your health. Learn to forgive yourself for your imperfections. We all have them.
This brings us back to the Golden Rule, you treat others with love and respect, so you must show the same to yourself. Finding an effective self-care routine has self-love and appreciation at its core. In order to give your body the care it needs to heal from the inside out, it’s important to nurture yourself and maintain realistic expectations.
Remember health and beauty start on the inside, and we want you to shine!
Here Are 10 Ways To Show Yourself Some Love In 2020:
1) Try a Loving Kindness Meditation
These meditations focus on increasing love and compassion for yourself and those around you. Consistently practicing this meditation has been shown to improve reactions to stress and overall emotional intelligence.
Practicing Metta Prayer is a great way to accomplish this. This is a prayer prescribed by Siddhartha after he became the Buddha. This was designed to internationalize good wishes and a sense of well-being for yourself and others. The idea is actually simple. Wish all the good things we all naturally desire; first for yourself, then for close loved ones, then radiating out in small groups until one has encompassed all sentient beings everywhere.
2) Embrace Your Alone Time
Spending time alone is an irreplaceable part of any self-care routine. Time alone allows you to really get in tune with your needs and desires, and get to know yourself a bit better. Studies have also shown that it helps expand creativity and productivity.
3) Set Boundaries. It’s Okay to Say ‘No’
We can only do so much in a single day. Being kind to yourself means knowing your limits and setting healthy boundaries. Simply saying ‘no’ more often will prevent burnout. Even better, you’ll be surprised to find that others are usually more understanding than you might have expected.
Don’t overextend yourself, your time is valuable and you should spend it in ways that make you happy and help you accomplish the goals that are important to you.
4) Try Self-Love Affirmations Upon Rising
Your morning routine largely dictates how the rest of your day will turn out. That’s why beginning each day with positive self-love affirmations can have a huge impact on your self-image throughout the day. Try playing an affirmation video that suits your needs or simply repeat mantras such as “I am strong”, “I am confident” or whatever it is that you want/need to hear until you truly believe and embrace it!
5) Treat Yourself Once in a While
Small indulgences, such as treating yourself to your favorite meal or activity once a week, can help boost endorphins and overall feelings of happiness. Showing yourself this kind of self-care and respect each week with a “solo date” will certainly leave you feeling uplifted and confident.
Plus, everyone loves having something to look forward to, and you don’t have to do something totally alone. This can be anything from getting involved in a recreational sport or hobby to joining a spinning class. Just do something you enjoy, and do it for yourself! You earned it.
6) Speak to Yourself as You Would a Friend
When you really think about it, doesn’t it seem ridiculous that we are so critical of ourselves, yet supportive and kind to our loved ones? Instead of putting yourself down, try listening to that inner voice and speak to yourself as you would your best friend. This underrated habit of positive self-talk can have a huge impact!
7) Give Back to Those Around You
Often times, being kind to others is one of the greatest ways to be kind to yourself. Some studies have shown that giving back to others can actually increase feelings of happiness. Volunteering, donating to a charity, lending a helping hand, or just giving a genuine compliment will ultimately leave you a kinder, more compassionate person.
8) Early to Bed, Early to Rise
One of the best ways you can care for your body and mind is by putting sleep at the top of your priority list. Getting a couple more hours of precious sleep each night will leave you feeling rested, calmer, more in control of your emotions, healthier, and better equipped to tackle anything that might come your way.
9) Keep a Daily Accomplishment Journal
Each day, we accomplish a multitude of tasks that largely go unappreciated and unnoticed. Instead of going through your incomplete “to do” list at the end of the day, try keeping a pen and paper next to your bed and jotting down at least one thing you accomplished at the end of the day. Instead of focusing on the negative, this habit will help you find accomplishments to celebrate (no matter how small) and leave you with an instant feeling of gratification and accomplishment. Plus, you will really see how much you got done each day. You might even impress yourself!
10) Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
We’ve all heard the saying that comparison is the death of joy. Constantly comparing yourself to others will only leave you with negativity. Since we often compare ourselves to others unconsciously, the first step is to become conscious of this unhealthy habit. After this, you can then stop yourself, focus on your unique strengths, and work to accept imperfection. There is nobody in the world quite like you!
Self-love isn’t something that just happens overnight. It can be a long process to truly love and appreciate yourself for who you are. Taking these steps can help in your journey. Remember, one day at a time.